Munificent Banter
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Wednesday, June 08, 2005
"Adolescence, in essence, is all about... trust."
Sometimes Gordie really does have some unique insights about things, and sometimes his ramblings teach rather than simply amuse.
What builds trust? Well, it seems to me that a few things can be combined to form and build trust. Integrity, responsibility, understanding, and security.
Integrity: Do what you say you're going to do.
Responsibility: Don't play the blame game and don't make excuses. Just accept what you've done, admit to it, and do what you can to fix the damage you've caused.
Understanding: Realize that your outlook on things may not be shared, accept that there are other points of view that are equally as valid as yours, and acknowledge them graciously and with accurate consideration.
Security: Say what you mean to say, and mean what you say.
I am borrowing quite a bit of this from and article Ronda Gates (M.S., R.Ph, C.L.C.) wrote, but I think it's important enough to quote her.
It takes time to develop trust in someone, especially for people who have been hurt before. Who do you trust? What are the characteristics that support that trust? If the relationship is important to you what are the small steps you can do to restore betrayed trust. If you have been in a relationship where trust has been damaged and want to rebuild trust try my 1 to 10 scale to rate the trust in four different areas.
- Give a number to where your level of trust is now;
- the worst it has ever been;
- the best it has ever been and
- how you would like it to be.
Like many people you may notice that where it is now is higher than the worst it has ever been. if that is so, what did it take to move your trust up the scale. The answers to that question are part of what helps you to build trust in a person. Now for higher math. Take the number for where trust is now and subtract it from the number of where you would like it to be. For the sake of example, let's say your goal is a 10 minus your current of level, 6. That means you have four levels of trust to go to get where you want. Instead of trying to jump from 6 to 10 in one shot, break it down into more manageable chunks. What small, day-to-day things would take to go from a 6 to a 7, a 7 to an 8 and so on?
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